leenystar2003 asked:
Christians only please…
What are the “rules” on Christian Dating? I heard from so many people that God does not care about that area in our life??? That he gave us free will and that there is no such thing as a PreDestined Person that God has For you… What are your views on Christian Courtship???? What makes Christiand Courting Special??? Please give me your views!!!!!! I need feed back!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Timothy
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I used to hang out with a christian girl – she wouldn’t actually date me because I refused to get ‘saved’.
She was really nice, and changed my mind about all christians being close minded, hypocritical, and braindead.
Though there are still plenty of those too.
As a Christian young person, you should only date other Christians. The Bible tells you not to be unequally yoked with unbelievers. God should be an important part of your relationship…if you both share a bond with God, you are less likely to go astray. You should both be willing to save yourselves for marriage. ALSO, you should never date anyone who you could not see yourself marrying.
God gives us the ability to love and he wants us to have babies and make more Christians…So, I completely believe that there is a sole mate out there for every person
God wants to fulfill our deepest desires…If one of yours is to fall in love then there is a sole mate out there for you 
It is possible to have a relationship in which the other doesn’t believe yet…God may want you to be that person’s light!
The thing about dating in Christian circles is that it should actually be part of the courtship process UNTO marriage.
Dating among young people has been very damaging in the past and while it is normal to be attracted to the opposite sex, dating should really not be endorced and encouraged among youth leaders and christian parents.
Reason being that within the close quarters of dating many have fallen prey to fornication and pregnancies. Many young brothers and sisters have been hurt and scarred in their young hearts because of giving it to so many people during their younger years.. they develop certain concepts regarding trust and men and women relations. Its like an unripened banana falling to the ground one too many times and getting squeesed and pressed all too often.. You do not see the effects of it right away ..but as the banana ripens and matures and its time to peel the skin do you THEN see the bruises. Our young people should be those fleeing youthful lust and PURSUING righteousness, faith,peace and love with those who call upon the Lord out of a pure heart (2 Tim 2-22)
In more mature christians dating should be leading to courtship and marriage.
Ideally each person should have attained some sort of education or on the way to finishing this aspect of their lives so that they can each contribute to the impending life together. To just be dating for the heck of it,like the younger ones, can lead to fornication,unwanted pregnancies and having your testimony dragged through the mud by satan.
On the positive side…Christian courtship can be a special time for two people. This couple should still take the covering of other dating couples for the sake of the Lord’s Name and testimony. During your courtship it would be good to read some good books on marriage and building a christian marriage based on the Word. If you can, and there is a young people’s group at your church it would be great if you can give yourself as a couple to be with these ones. If you ‘can’t read the word and pray with this person in your life then you need to seriously question your standing as a couple. Make sure that the Lord is the foundation and center of your courtship and then marriage..
Hope this helps