This is the fundamental concept of attraction – when you make other people feel good, they will want to be around you.
There are various sizes and shapes of insecurity, such as: Some guys think they’re too old. Some think they’re too fat. Some men think they are too short. They could be too ugly.
Here we can dismiss a few myths concerning attraction, which may be holding you back from a successful love life.
Myth #1 – You have to be good looking to get women.
All you have to do is look around at the various types of guys in this world who are dating gorgeous women to know that this isn’t the case. Simply put, it is essential to look good regardless of your physical attractiveness. Is there a difference?
Well, you can’t help if you’re good looking or not. But you have COMPLETE control over how you present yourself. You control the type of clothes you wear, how you groom yourself, how you wear your hair, how you smell, etc. Presentations of these types of features play a role in looking good. Even the most average looking guy can be attractive when he takes control of his appearance.
Myth #2 – Women Think Just As Men Do
Naturally, we all think that everyone sees things in the same way you see those things.
For instance – If you’ve ever had a pimple on your forehead that felt so big, it was like everyone could see it. But the pimple was under the skin, and in reality, no one but you could tell it was there. Very few people if any will notice, while to you it is obvious.
You naturally assume that women size you up in the same manner.
Incorrect.
Women have different criteria for determining attraction than men do. That’s not to say they don’t care if a man is attractive or not. But they don’t place as much importance on physical characteristics as us guys do.
To women, attraction is based more around how men make them feel, rather than how the men look. That is why women are attracted to confidence and social status. They’re attracted to men who make them laugh. They’re attracted to men who are good at what they do. See how this works? Looks have very little to do with any of this.
Myth #3 – Women Notice Our Insecurities
Keep in mind that we know our own self, better than anyone ever will. We see all our flaws, such as our large noses and ears, a weak chin or receding hairline.
No matter what it is, we see it!
And because we see it, we assume everyone else does too. But the fact is, most people aren’t very observant, and unless they specifically look for something to criticize you about, they’re not going to care about your insecurities, whatever they may be.
Many men may call attention to their shortcomings while trying to dismiss and diffuse the things that make them feel insecure. Consequently, all this type of behavior does is managing to call the attention of the woman to the area of insecurity; otherwise, she may not even notice it.
Besides, insecurity is very unattractive. Think about it. Then remember, in every situation it is essential to focus on your good qualities rather than any shortcomings, since the positive will outshine the negative or at least balance it more in your favor.
Myth #4 – Good Looking Guys Have It Easy
This is probably the biggest myth there is – that if a guy is good looking, girls are going to automatically flock to him.
Attraction is about amping up the emotion that a woman feels when she’s around you, and linking it to you in such a way where they only way she can get those feelings back is to be around you.
If a woman meets a man who matches her physical type, she is attracted to him, since her preference of features brings her enjoyment. Nevertheless, if the man is incompatible, boring or a jerk, her feelings will vanish.
However, if you take a guy that the woman maybe isn’t initially physically attracted to, and then have him make her experience feelings of fun, excitement, and pleasure – she WILL become attracted to him eventually.
This is the fundamental concept of attraction – when you make other people feel good, they will want to be around you.
Being a good looking man does not mean, you make women feel good. You simply need to learn how to mingle and interact with women.
As you lead a woman towards sexual attraction, she begins seeing you in a new perspective, despite your shortcomings or looks.
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