Are your relationships ruined by your possessiveness and jealousy? Many are and it can become a problem that repeats itself over and over damaging the relationship beyond saving. By being over possessive you are giving your partner the clear signal that you simply do not trust them and this is a horrible thing to tell someone that you may love.
How do you react if your partner calls or texts you during the day saying that they feel ill and would rather stay in tonight than meet up?
a) You tell your partner that you will pick them up and make sure that they either come home or get home safely, so you stay in all night, stay sober and go and pick them up?
b) Tell them to have a great time and say that you’ll catch up on the gossip later?
c) Arrange to meet up with your friends for a night out and enjoy yourself?
Clearly ‘a’ would not be a good option, firstly because you would make a fool out of no one but yourself and secondly, you would possibly reforge a bond between your partner and the ex so making the situation worse! Ideally you would just get on with your night out. This is what a secure person would do.
What you need to do is take a moment to reflect on your life. Try and take yourself back to your earliest memories of relationships and look for a time when something upset you. It may even be the first ever love or crush that you had on someone. It may appear to be something really small but it will be there, lurking in your mind and causing these insecurities to surface every time you are in a relationship and you need to resolve it as soon as you can.
A good method to explore your inner self is through simple a self hypnosis technique. Take time out for yourself and work out why you are jealous and possessive in your relationships.
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