Kyosonym asked:
Allow me to preface this with the fact that I’m 18 and have absolutely NO dating experience whatsoever. (Yes, I realize how embarrassing and strange this is). But now that I’ve started college, I’ve become acquainted with someone in my church group, and after a few weeks my feelings for him have become difficult to keep to myself. Can I just walk up to him one day and ask him out? Would it be too juvenile to ask through one of my friends (who also don’t know of my feelings)? I want to ask one of the church elders for advice, but it seems like it would be a trivial waste of their time in comparison with other problems.
Please help soon. He’s not becoming any younger, uglier, or more single.
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Just tell him u like him n ask him what he feels 4 u or how does he see u(as a friend or something alse)
Just ask him out. It’s not so uncommon these days. Let him know you’re interested. Just mix. Get going now. He’s not getting any younger or uglier or more single. ( I like that)
Uh do Christians date in a different way than every other religion or did I miss something?
Yeah, why don’t you ask him if he would like to do something like go out to eat or a movie and just get to know him a little better. Obviously make sure that he doesn’t already have a girlfriend.
Pray. Does he show an interest in you? You can always go chat with him in Church. If he seems interested, can you give him your telephone number and tell him you would like to talk with him more if he wants to give you a call. Then the waiting game starts. If a woman shows an interest but does not come one too much, a guy should be able to pick this up. Also, maybe you should be sure he is not dating anyone. You can plan this question in your conversations, after what do you do during the week outside of church.
the direct approach is to give him your number and wait for him to call.
the indirect approach is to flirt (and I know you know how to do this) and be patient and hope that he makes the first move.
–”I just walk up to him one day and ask him out?”
Answer: Why not? A good relationship requires the ability to communicate. If you cannot tell him that you are interested in him, then you are a poor communicator. Just don’t gush all over him like an immature *********** who has never seen a guy before.
–”Would it be too juvenile to ask through one of my friends ”
Ans: Yes
–”I want to ask one of the church elders for advice, but it seems like it would be a trivial waste of their time ”
Ans: Why a waste of time? Giving advice is what they are paid for.
DONT be embarrassed. i was just like you. it’s the lil 15 yr old who should be embarrassed cuz they don’t know what they’re doing.
YOU are absolutely old enough. so be happy
It’s great to follow simple dating rules if u r Christian:
Help? thnx in advance;