Trying to be a good Christian while dating?

Try to not be a good Christian while dating.

Inexperience is not a virtue. There’s nothing to save there. It’s just a bit of skin.

You are artificially depriving yourself (and your boyfriend) of some pleasurable experiences. Life is too short to waste like that.

If you want to live by the Bible, then get married before you commit fornication.

well, if you guys are kissing, and you really like him … you will most likely find yourself in a compromising situation. he may respect you and tell you that he doesn’t mind waiting … but if you’ve only been dating for seven weeks, it’s unlikely that he’s thinking about marrying you, at this point, so what will he be “waiting” for?

i know you SAY you will wait, but being w/ him alone, with your feelings increasing, and being physical in any way … well … most likely will lead to more … and for the record, anything beyond kissing, is considered pornea … whether it’s dry humping, fondling of the ******** (over or under clothing), oral sex, whatever … you don’t have to penetrate to have “sex.” this is where many get confused or think they’re not doing anything wrong as long as they’re not penetrating!

so, if you wish to be chaste till marriage, my suggestion to you, though neither of you may like this, but trust me … it will save you … is to not be alone together unless you’re in public, OR have a chaperon. at your age, you may not think you need one, but it’s the only way! and i don’t care how much you think you trust yourself or him & vice versa … in time, being in each other’s company … it’s bound to get more physical!

don’t believe me? you’ll see.

I am a 49 year old BLISSFULLY HAPPY married man, and I was 26 or thereabouts when you were born, so I’m going to talk to you as if you were my daughter.
First off, EVERY man wants to marry a virgin. He may want to date a slut, but he wants to MARRY a virgin. Second, don’t “Missionary Date”, that is, don’t waste your time with anyone you would not consider a marriage partner, and don’t date anyone who is not ALREADY A CHRISTIAN. 2Co 6:14 Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? and what communion hath light with darkness?
If you date someone with the idea of “saving” them later, you are asking for a LOT OF GRIEF.
The two of you are obviously NOT teenagers living at home, so you need to be VERY CAREFUL about WHERE you spend your time, and behave PURPOSELY. Do either of you THINK you can hold fire to your ****** and NOT BE BURNED? You can’t. I’m NOT telling you not to kiss, but I will tell you that the first time in our relationship that I touched my wife’s ****** was in the back of the Limousine going from the wedding to our reception. She covered my hand with her bouquet.
Your virginity is a gift to a husband that is worth far more than a moment’s thrill followed by a lifetime of guilt and regret. I HIGHLY COMMEND you for even being so bold as to post this question. I HIGHLY COMMEND you for being a 23 year old virgin. You are a PRIZE in today’s world. If your boyfriend is half the man you deserve, he will take the romantic lead and respect you by keeping his hands and pen*s where they belong. If he does ANYTHING improper, he has told you what he wants out of your relationship. The two of you are mature enough to sit down and discuss this, but I would suggest doing it in a semi-public place, like a sidewalk cafe or a park bench. If you do not want to be overcome by temptation, LIMIT your time alone. You don’t really need to try anything out to see if it works, IT WILL WHEN THE TIME IS RIGHT.
I can’t answer how far can you go with a person and still be a good christian and save *** until marriage? I’m NOT you or your boyfriend and I’m not intimately familiar with either of your personal limitations. I can tell you the obvious, like oral is still sex, but it sounds as if you are mature enough to understand this.
Why is your boyfriend NOT a virgin? Has he been married before? Or just sowing his wild oats? If his answer is the latter, is that fair to you? You value Christianity enough to follow it this far, how about him? Does he attend church anywhere? Is he a member of any church? What is his reputation? If I were your father, I would be asking him ALL these questions. What are your intentions toward my daughter?
A friend of mine has a 1964 Red Corvette and a beautiful daughter. When a young man comes calling on his daughter, he invariably takes the young man out to the garage and they invariably go ga-ga over his red Corvette. He will ask the young man if he would like to take the car for a drive, and they are ALWAYS THRILLED at even the offer. He then asks the young man which they think he loves more, the Classic Corvette or his daughter. He asks them to treat his daughter nicer than they would the Corvette. They get the message.
To be truthful, I just made up the above story; but I’ll bet you understand, and so should your boyfriend.

The best thoughts I can think of to leave you with are:
1) You need to buy and read the book “I Kissed Dating Goodbye” by Joshua Harris
2) My wife and I have prayed to have a mutual orgasm; and we usually do. If you have honored God from the beginning of your relationship, as we have, then it is just and righteous that God should honor your faithfullness in the marriage relationship. I mean, he CREATED ***. IT IS SUPPOSED TO BE FUN. IT WORKS.
3) May the Lord Richly Bless You as you seek his will.

It’s really up to you, but remember that the most important thing is this: if you DO decide to have sex, use protection.

In fact, at your age, repression is probably not healthy, so you should be on some sort of birth control anyway. The last thing you want is to end up unprepared and then get yourself pregnant.

You will probably end up sleeping with the guy, so there’s no use fooling yourself. Play it safe.

Another reason it’s a good idea is that you’re only a few weeks into your relationship. You do NOT want to rush marriage, especially at your age. You are young. If you sleep with the guy, it’s not such a bad thing, but if you run off and marry him (so you can sleep with him that way), you could end up making the both of you extremely unhappy.

A healthy sexual relationship will help you avoid making mistakes like that. It’ll also save you disappointment, since you might build up your wedding night as some sort of ideal heavenly time, only to be disappointed when it hurts and you don’t get any pleasure out of it.

Firstly, I would pray about it, because God WILL answer your question. Secondly, I would do what your conscience truly tells you to do. What God thinks and what all of us here on Earth think can often be two different things. Secondly I would read what the Bible has to say. If you want some good verses email me or im me. *** is something that God gave us as a special gift as long as we do not abuse it. I highly respect you for waiting, and I firmly believe that on your wedding night, it will be something truly special.

“Do not enter” until married. Apply that … to everything, and your religious “obligations” should be fulfilled. Personally, I think you should drop the religion and let the relationship be between you and the guy, not you and the guy and an invisible deity, but hey.

that’s how Satan operates,…he want’s you to doubt ,DON’T.
Set your eyes on the Lord Jesus Christ and never gaze anywhere else. You made it this far don’t break your promiss to God now.

I’d say you’re probably at the pushover stage right now.

CD

I guess one question is how far can you two go without giving in? It’s dangerous territory. You’ve made the right choice and he’s doing the same by waiting, too. A kiss at the door is reasonable. A long, passionate kiss at the door is probably OK, too. But making out leads to sex; or at least it does when you get married. I’d steer clear and rely on God to keep both of you pure. Remember, even though your boyfriend isn’t a virgin, he’s never been with you. That alone can be a great blessing when and if you two get married.

The closer you get to “the line,” the more likely you are to cross it. It seems like he’s happy with kissing, so what’s the problem? I didn’t find that so “boring.”

There are some Christian couples that have held out even to the point of no kissing while dating. I can’t say that is the right thing to do but I do think it is important to refrain from *** before marriage. The whole dating thing as a Christian is odd. Some say that you should not even date someone seriously unless you plan on marrying them.

Seven weeks and he’s already talking about ***? He’s going to want something. Oral sex, **** sex, and finger f-ing is *** if that is what you are asking. I never understood why some Christians feel that **** *** and fingering is okay, but no penis-vagina. I guess we are all using the Bill Clinton *** definition. Anything ***** is ***.

I was dumped 15+ times by “Christians” for being a virgin. They told me I looked too “hot” to be a virgin. I eventually gave in because I was sick of the heartache. No one told me in *** ed virgins were supposed to be fat and ugly. Hope it works out for you. It didn’t for me.

I have no idea just where a ‘good Christian’ draws their boundary lines ~ where / what is ‘acceptable or otherwise.’

But you say right at the end, ‘I’m not going to sleep with him.’

I’ve slept with three women throughout my life where that’s just what it was, ’sleep.’ There was no actual ’sex’ or ’sexual activity’ involved at all. However, ’sleeping with someone’ has become a euphemism today for engaging in sexual behaviour that has nothing to do with ’sleeping’ and need not even have to do with the removal of clothing ~ whilst rubbing their lower body parts together.

So, I’m just curious as to what ’sleeping with (not)’ would actually mean to you!

You’ve clearly set yourself up a dilemma, I just hope it’s not a boring one for you both:-)

I wish you Good luck with it.
Sash.

I hope I’m misunderstanding your question.
There isn’t anymore physically to do and keep your vow. So I guess time in prayer together and fellowship with Christians that you both know and like. Doesn’t have to just be at church you know. Perhaps a Christian project to help others. Lots to do to avoid boredom.
I’ve always thought you really know you are comfortable together when you can be in a room for an extended time and not have any thing to say to each other. No reaching out to please just being with. Also if you can **** and not worry about it. Good luck.

Ouzibillahi Mina Shytan Al Rajeem
Bismillah Al Rahman Al Raheem
Ya Habibi Allah
Ya Al Abdul Wakeel ya Muhammed SAW
Ya Sadiq ya Abrahim A.s.
Ya Sadiq ya Musa A.s.
Ya Sadiq ya Isa A.s.
Ala kil Al Ambyiate Salam! Takbeer Allah Akbar!

Will you give it up already those of the book are protected by the book, you know i am human being and I error but I just go back the lab and make some more web slinging string, sew my tights back up, oh of course I do that what you think I am some character on TV, surely you don’t know the real me. I only know your a fake and a fraud and I don’t care what you post because my Lord the Merciful one with Allah SWT behind his name keeps bringing me out of our fire and smoke and tells me, you can repent and you can show peace always and the good ones oh they will shine brighter than any of your light bulbs in the house. So please keep posting so we can really know what the heck you really are IBLIS!

Salam Alaikum Wu RahmatAllah Wu Barakathu Shoo be jabtak hatoo, ya Allah Masad Ya Habibii Rasool Allah Ya Isa, A.s. Yaya Ya Wakeel, ya Musa Ya Habibi, Ya Allah! Ya Allah shine baby shine! I told you once and I will tell you again, yeeeeeeeeee hhhhhhhhhhhhhhh!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!…

Source(s):

Al Quran Al Karim the Truthful Words of Allah SWT The Lord The only True King of the final day!
Al Tranlation of the Quran
And many verified parts of the faith before till Adam our Father and he had sons yes they had daughter too and thats us wake up!

Right and wrong is so black and white and this is a serious gray. Sticking to your guns is awesome. As far as how far you go if you pray on this for guidance and dig deep and ask what you feel is right and wrong you will discern to yourself what is right. Do it now though before you get caught up in the passion of a young love/lust relationship and best of luck to you.

Keep Strong!!! Set your boundry and don’t go passed it!

Young one, saving your self for marrage should be for you and something you want, Not because you are Christian. You will find out the problems
being religiuos later in life.