2kool4u asked:
“If person A is attracted to person B, person B must also be attracted to person A.”
“If person A is attracted to person B, person B must also be attracted to person A.”
It’s an elementary mistake in logic, right? So why do so many people think that way? Is there some name for it in psychology?
Hi Wilhelm S. If that’s original, you have probably thought up a really useful psychological concept. (I couldn’t find it on Google so maybe it is–original I mean.)
Oscar
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ABBA Syndrome.
it’s just the way it is people like to think that way but it’s not necessarily true in all cases generally speaking
yeah!!!
thats actually right!!!!
Who thinks this way?
only wistful thinkers, persons A who want persons B to think they’re attractive in return
you’re right it’s illogical
i don’t think there would be any name for it in psychology
but i like the way Wilhelm’s mind works
“Attraction is based on an evaluation of quality of an individual”.
attraction, affinity, sympathy mean the relationship existing between things or persons that are naturally or involuntarily drawn together. attraction implies the possession by one thing of a quality that pulls another to it . affinity implies a susceptibility or predisposition on the part of the one drawn . sympathy implies a reciprocal or natural relation between two things that are both susceptible to the same influence .
Interpersonal attraction (known as biological attraction in animals) is the attraction between people which leads to friendships and romantic relationships. In a colloquial sense, interpersonal attraction is related to how much we like, love, dislike, or **** someone. Interpersonal attraction can be thought of as a force acting between two people tending to draw them together, and resisting their separation. According to a personality psychologists’ view, interpersonal attraction is a person’s qualities that tend to attract by appealing to another person’s desires.When measuring interpersonal attraction, one must refer to the qualities of the attracted as well as the qualities of the attractor to achieve predictive accuracy.. Repulsion is also a factor in the process of interpersonal attraction, one’s conception of “attraction” to another can vary from extreme attraction to extreme repulsion.
the idea that a person feels attraction to another whose physical attractiveness is perceived as similar to their own. This hypothesis is commonly known as the matching hypothesis. Researchers suggest that people are also attracted to others who are similar to them in demographics, interpersonal style, communication skills, and social situations. . There are three reasons why researchers think that similarity to the object of attraction is important. First, many assume that people who are similar to them will reciprocate their feeling thereby they would be more likely to start a relationship. Second, many think that people will confirm and side with them on their beliefs and characteristics providing them with the feeling of rightness. Third, people most often have negative assumption about others that they think are different from them. when a person wants a committed relationship, they tend to choose someone similar to themselves, and that if they only want a ‘fling’ they tend to choose a person dissimilar to them.
in blind tests where the subjects don’t get the luxury of getting to know each other there are pheromones which are found more pleasing between people with dissimilar immune systems. It would therefore be logical to suggest that if your immune system is different to someone else’s they see it the same way and you should be attracted.
However one of you may be pig ugly (no offense to pigs) and we have visual, psychological and peer pressure obstacles to overcome.
so the answer is yes, well erm no, definitely maybe then.
I think the best description is being a NOOB at dating. Person A should get some dating advices and practice a lot.
it is called wishful thinking