red asked:


i like a guy who is the most devout Christian I’ve ever met – I think I want a relationship with him but i’m wondering how much i’d have to adapt or change my ways in order to fit in with what he thinks is a true Christian relationship.
What do Christian men exactly want or expect in a relationship? What do they want in a female they’re interested in? Or do you think its more right not to bother…

Judy

harrison_s_j asked:


For the longest time, I didn’t date. I was waiting for the perfect one. The one God wanted me to be with. After years of turning down boys and saying no to temptation, I thought I had finally found the one willing to commit to. We prayed about it for so long, and decided to date. I made the commitment fully. I wouldn’t have dated him unless I thought I could fall in love with him, marry him, and give up things to spend the rest of my life with him, which I think are 3 crucial things you have to think about before dating. It’s not like I went into it saying ‘I’m going to marry this person’, I just had to make the commitment to him and to God that if it came up a few years down the road, would I be willing? I was. Sadly, he wasn’t, and it didn’t work out. My Christian relationship that took me so long to be ready for, something I had put so much of myself into, had failed. Now as a Christian, I have a question:

As a Christian, what are the perks of dating?

I know people will say ‘To find your mate’, but I’m a big believer in god providing, so wouldn’t I know who’s my mate and who isn’t? And shouldn’t friendship be a good enough example of whether or not I could marry them? The whole compatibility thing makes sense on paper, but in real life, it doesn’t make sense to me. I know plenty of people who didn’t date, they were just friends with, the people they ended up marrying until the day they proposed.

Other’s say ‘Physical Perks’. Well, that one doesn’t convince me either because I’m waiting for *** and my first kiss until marriage, so even if I did date, the farthest it’s going to go is he gets to hold my hand, put his arm around my shoulder, and hug me. I don’t even think we’ll get as far as cuddling because I think that just opens up a door to sexual temptation that I don’t want to walk through.

These are really the only two reasons I’ve heard towards dating, and neither of them seem justified, so now I want to hear from you:

As a Christian, what is the reason for dating?

People are giving a lot of feedback on me not having my first kiss until marriage. I think a kiss is something shared between two people who love each other, and is the first step to them becoming one. I know plenty of Christians who have waited until they were at the altar to have their first kiss. The reason is why waste it on someone who might leave you? Then they’ve stolen your kiss. At the altar, it’s guaranteed.

As to everyone saying I need to loosen up and not be a robot, I think God is going to provide me with a husband, but that doesn’t mean he’s going to fall out of the sky. I realize that I’m going to have to do some work, but is dating the answer? Friendship can’t work?

Georgia